By Jason DeRusha

By Jason DeRusha, WCCO-TV

At what age would you consider yourself to be old? Is it 40? 50? 60?

I want your answer in the comments, but I couldn’t believe the difference between men and women in a new poll conducted by a British funeral business.

On average, men start to feel old at age 58. Women start to feel old around age 29.

Twenty-nine, ladies? Really?

Photographer Joe Berglove and I have been arguing about whether or not I am middle aged. I’m 36, and I argue that there’s no way I’m middle aged. But if life expectancy for men is 78, 39 would be the start of the middle, right? So I’m getting close.

I did spend all of my weekend with 63-year-old Cheryl Tiegs, and let me tell you, that woman is not old. I look older than she does.

derushatiegs DeBlog: How Old Until Youre Old?

(credit: CBS)

At any rate, tonight’s Good Question will explore why there’s such a huge gap between men and women. Are women too hard on themselves? Are men out of their minds? Share your thoughts in the comments, and watch us tonight at 10!

Comments (37)
  1. Chris B. Critter says:

    When I turned 30, I had a hard time saying my age. Someone would ask how old I was, and I’d take a couple of seconds, and blurt out “thirty”. When I turned 40, I didn’t have such a hard time. Now I’m 42, and I really don’t feel that old, although there are some mornings …

    Then there’s that scene in “WarGames” when Jennifer and David talk about how old Dr. Falken is:
    Jennifer: He wasn’t very old.
    David: No, he was pretty old. He was 41.
    Jennifer: Oh yeah? Oh, that’s old.

    And I think we’re both of the age when 40 was “over the hill” and we’re not to trust anyone over 30.

  2. prettylittlereckless says:

    I think there’s a lot of social pressure for women to look young, so once we start to not have that 20 year old “fresh face” anymore, we feel it. Also, I think guys tend to get sexier over time 🙂

  3. Susan says:

    Dear Jason:
    Age is just a number and you are as old as you want to feel, act or be.
    I’m 51 years old and get told that I look only in the mid thirty’s. I take care
    of myself, avoid to much sun. Don’t smoke or drink and get enough sleep
    to be a very healthy lady of fun.
    This is a very good question by the way.
    I have seen young adults in their mid twenty’s and thirties complain just about
    anything and everything.
    I would say that age is nothing that should ever brand anyone or make them feel that they cannot do what a twenty year old can.
    If they are up to what they know that they can do, I say live it and live for the life that you feel and don’t let the age stop you from doing anything. AGE FOR MYSELF JUST DOESN’T MATTER AND I SEEM TO ATTRACT MORE PEOPLE WITH INTERESTS IN THEIR TWENTY’S AND THIRTIES THAN I DO IN MY OWN AGE GROUP. SO THERE YOU HAVE IT.


    1. Billy says:

      What do you mean age is just a number??? One more number closer to death!!!

      1. Susan says:

        Your attitude is awful ! One number closer to death? Yikes ! I never have felt that way, nor would I ever start.
        Age is just a number and you would really agree if you live and feel like I do !
        I can only speak for myself and hope that others catch on to my way of living and all.

  4. Shian F. says:

    I actually don’t think you should be considered “old” until 70. I’m 29 years old and would NEVER call myself “middle-aged” at this time in my life…and I have 7 kids!!!

  5. Laura J. says:

    I’m only 43, which is not old, but I don’t have quite the same amount of energy I once had and I feel a few more aches and pains. I guess you start to feel old when you need to adjust your activities and schedules so you know you’ll be able to function the next day.

  6. Victim Du Jour says:

    Botox looks worse than wrinkles, it looks like a mid-life crisis circus clown. I am in my 40’s and I always notice well kept women around my age looking good, even with age lines.

    I think women who get too much Botox to compete with 20 year old women is sad. I know women in their 40’s who look good without make-up.

    Women hear compliments all day, so unfortunately they pay more attention to insults, and things that make them feel insecure.

  7. Sandi says:

    Age is a state of mind so in my mind, I’m 19. Okay, so I’m actually 61 and the body feels it some days. LOL! However, I’m active with family, volunteering and creative things. I’m a quilter and have friends who are still stitching and they’re in their 90’s!!! I have some friends in their 80’s who volunteer more than I do. They’re my inspiration! My great grandma lived to be 96, so did my grandpa. If I can live that long, just think of all the quilting I can get done. 🙂

  8. bml says:

    I agree with many of the others who say age is just a number. I turn 32 on April 1st (No Joke!). I remember when I thought 32 was SOOOOOOO old. But now that I’m here, I still feel like a kid often times! Stay active and enjoy life. Unfortunately, there’s a large segment of our society that thinks anything over about 25 is old (hello pop media!) and we’re blasted daily with these images of women trying to look younger all the time. I, for one, admire my grandma. She’s in her early 80s, goes dancing 3 days a week, travels regularly, and has a boyfriend 14 years younger because he’s the only one who can keep up with her! I hope at that age that I’m just as energetic and spunky!

  9. JamieinMN says:

    Why do you think women start to feel older much more soon than men??????? Because WE carry heavy burdens and stress. We are so headstrong that we feel the need to push ourselves to keep up with life. We want to be successful wives and mothers. It’s alot of work.

  10. twinswin1 says:

    Ah, Jason, your face is quite clear but Cheryl’s…not so much. The older I get, the further away old gets.

  11. robin says:

    It’s even worse than you think. 39 is the middle of middle-aged. If average age is 78; then young is 0-26; middle is 27-52 and old is 53-78.

  12. Kevin S says:

    Like Indiana Jones said, “It’s not the age, it’s the mileage”.

  13. Say What? says:

    As a man you are only as old as the woman you feel.

  14. Steve Kickert says:

    Hey Jason,

    I started feeling old when I started to have vivid memories of my parents when they were my age. At the time I was about 43.

  15. Tod Hjulberg says:

    When I was little, I thought people that retired were considered old. I’m 42, and I don’t feel old, much less look old. There are guys I work with who are younger than I who look older, possibly because of stress. Stress can make you look older than you are. So if retired means you’re old, the retired age when I was little was like around 62-65. My dad is 64, so he’s old. Today, the retirement age could be around 70 which seems old, but isn’t in today’s world. In today’s down economy, most people can’t even retire at 70 – so it seems with me. I waon’t be able to retire when I am 70 and become old. So, it looks like I will work until I am dead, meaning I will be old when I am dead and gone. I feel like I just wrote a bit for Andy Rooney…

  16. Valerie says:

    Doesn’t really matter how you feel or act. I think 50 is old. Anything 60 & over is very old. I’m getting up there & 60 is NOT young in any way even if we still think young. NO- 60 yr olds are WAY,WAY older than the 18 or 20yr olds we used to be. Some women might look a lot younger than their years. Good way to tell is by looking at their hands-can’t hide the old looking hands.

    1. Susan says:

      Valerie, you are totally wrong in the look at their hands dept. as I am 51 and my hands are just as long looking soft just like the rest of my body. So you are wrong on this theory. Fifty is not close to being old ! IF this is what you think, than I will
      hope the best for you as I am having the time of my life and my age is not stopping me at all.


  17. KRHS says:

    What up with the picture of Jason and Cheryl? She is all blurry, is this on purpose?

    1. Jason DeRusha says:

      It’s a self-portrait taken with my iPhone.

  18. Barb says:

    Age 25 was the most difficult for me. I felt a quarter of a century old. At Age 68, I feel like life began at 61 and I am certainly young! It’s all where you are at in your head (inellectually) and emotionally.

  19. Jarrin Williams says:

    I remember thinking 25 was old when I was 18. I’ll be 39 this year and have been told frequently that I don’t look my age (whatever that means). Often, I’ve been confused for a college-aged student so that means I can’t look older than 22. I laugh and smile a great deal, drink lots of water, and avoid smoking. I thank my mom because I know I got this gift directly from her! 🙂

  20. Nancy Aleshire says:

    As a woman, you know you’re getting old when you reach menopause. Never had any hot flashes, but I put on the pounds like you wouldn’t believe. It is because all your systems slow down. That is why so many people our age are grabbing up laxatives and fiber pills. Your skin also starts losing its elasticity, even if you don’t smoke or over due the sun. You also start forget things more of a short term memory. I can actually remember things that happened in my childhood back in the 1950’s–Thank you, Mad Men. I actually have less energy than my cat, who is 18 years old–85 years in human terms. Maybe I should spend much of my day sleeping.

  21. Valerie says:

    Hands being soft are not the same as losing elasticity. 50 is a little young for the age to be showing on the hands, but it always will eventually. We can feel & act & do whatever/however we want for as long as we want, but 50 is NOT young & you’re only kidding yourself & no one else by thinking otherwise. Doesn’t mean we’re ready for the grave or anything like that- but it’s more realistic than pretending we’re something we’re not because then it becomes pathetic.

  22. Susan says:

    Nothing about 50 or any age is pathetic ! Life is what you want to act, feel or be. I will be 52 in May and very much still look like I did when I was in my thirties. It’s true as not many can say this and I am very grateful !
    I am not losing elasticity at all. I have baby soft skin. I am not in denial what so ever.
    I have a curved hour glass figure and I am a size 2 in junior size. I weigh 115lbs.
    and I totally healthy. My height is 5 feet, five inches.
    I am not pretending at all. I see that most people are worried about age and all.
    Not me ! I live my life to the fullest and I have two children, now adults ages 29 and 30 that I did naturally have my children on my own. No C-Sections.
    I look younger because I care about myself and really know what to do and how to live.

    Take care, and God Bless You ! You can do it and so can others out there.
    It just takes the know how and all…….

  23. Susan says:

    Dear Jason DeRusha:
    I think that this “Good question” of Why do woman tend to feel older at an earlier age than Men” really hit a soft spot on many people.
    Maybe now people will get out there and exercise and really put themselves to the test of seeing how much that they can do for themselves, just like I do for myself.
    Your life will pass you by if you don’t take care of yourself.
    It’s a given! Many just figure that doctors can make everything better !
    If you don’t take care of yourself, nobody else will ! If you live to this phrase, then maybe you can surprise yourself of what you are really capable of.
    Good job Jason on getting this topic really going and all.

  24. Valerie says:

    obviously you’re mind must be going because i didn’t say anything about about ANY age being pathetic

    1. Susan says:

      Dear Valerie:

      Nothing about any part of my life is as you put it, (Going): My Hands, age, etc. is not pathetic ! My mind is heather than most peoples out there as I don’t smoke, drink or anything of this nature.
      I was just being more wide minded than you Valerie. Obviously, you sound like an angry person ! PIcking on words and not reading the true meaning ! Yikes !

  25. Valerie says:

    I also have a face with less wrinkles than most women in their 30’s. That does’t make my face 35 yrs old. If I feel great & want to continue with enjoying life there’s no reason to stop any activity I might enjoy- but that doesn’t make my body 35 yrs old. I don’t fool myself that I will not get any wrinkles soon, I don’t fool myself that I will be able to keep with 30yr olds for another 20yrs. I don’t even worry about that-aging is natural- like I said -no age is pathetic. If you truly believe you will never age then I hope to see your name in the Guiness Book of Records

  26. Susan says:


    I just might happen to put myself in the great book and all !
    Good idea !!!!!

    1. Jack says:

      Shut up already Susan.

      1. Susan says:

        Really Jack ?

        You have to learn how to have respect for others out there as the words “Shut Up Already” is not proper language !

      2. Sue says:

        Really Jack ?

        You have to learn how to have respect for others out there as the words “Shut Up Already” is not proper language !

        Take Care !

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