MINNEAPOLIS (WCCO) — It used to be that there was a lot of secrecy when adoptions took place, but not anymore.

A new report finds that only about 5 percent of infant adoptions in the United States now take place without some ongoing relationship between birth parent, and the adoptive family.

Based on a survey of 100 adoption agencies, the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute said the new norm is for birth parents considering adoption to meet with prospective parents.

Of the roughly 14,000 to 18,000 infant adoptions each year, about 55 percent are fully open. About 40 percent are “mediated” adoptions, where the agency facilitates the communication. The remainder are closed adoptions.

“We are seeing it in Minnesota. And I think it’s been a couple of decades in the making,” said Alexis Oberdorfer, vice president of Adoption Services for Children’s Home Society.

Oberdorfer said it comes down to what the preference of the birth parents are.

According to the report, most participants have a positive experience with open adoptions. In general, it found that adoptive families are more satisfied with the process, and birth mothers have less regret and worry.

Oberdorfer says there is a range of possible involvement — everything from no contact, to completely open to somewhere in the middle.

“Might want a letter, might want pictures, might want an update on how the child is doing,” Oberdorfer said.

The key, she said, is to know up front what it is you want. She suggests getting professionals to help figure out what the relationship will look like.

“And not promising something that you cannot commit to,” she said.

Oberdorfer called open adoption a lifelong journey, a relationship you are going to be in for a long time.

Comments (8)
  1. Jim says:

    maybe if you had to get a license before having a kid we wouldn’t have to read this article, start bringing this subject up in the legislature!!!!!!!

    1. Kristen A says:

      Not all children that are waiting to be adopted are a result of young parents. Some children are victims of abuse, neglect, or their parents had the foresight that another family was waiting for a child and could provide the love and stability that they could not.

      1. Jim says:

        see, see, that’s what I’m talking about, children being victims of abuse, neglect or worse, if the parents had to get a license it could’ve been avoided

  2. Helma Rita Hintz nee Thiel says:

    Everyone needs to take a parenting class,period !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    1. Bill Clintons Cigar says:

      For which culture? Somali class? Hmong Class? Mexican Class? Do explain….as each culture has their own ways……God your such a racist….

      1. Blog Ref says:

        Pretty sure “everyone” means….everyone. That wasn’t clear enough for you? Once again, the first one to throw race into the mix is accusing others of racism.

  3. MAJ says:

    I have three Grandchildren who were placed for Adoption by their birth mothers.. All are Open Adoptions and these childrens birth Moms chose my daughter and her husband to parent their child. My grandchildren see their birth Moms from 2 – 4 times a year. Open adoption takes the mystery out of why they were placed for adoption. The birth mothers can see their children are happy and well adjusted.

  4. Peace says:

    I think adoption is a wonderful choice instead of either killing your child or keeping a child you are unable to care for.

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