Mother Disciplined After Confronting Son’s Bullies

MINNEAPOLIS (WCCO) — A mother who confronted two boys who bullied her 10-year-old son has been banned from her son’s Minneapolis school and even her son’s bus stop for the rest of the year.

Tanya Sydney said she does not regret taking actions into her own hand to keep her son from being a victim.

Last week, fifth-grader Sovante Griffin told his Mom and Stepdad he was being bullied on the school bus. Sydney said he told her boys were hitting him, so she took matters into her own hands. She went to the bus stop the next day and confronted the bus driver.

“He told me ‘I am doing the best I can, I can’t be in 50 million places at once,'” Sydney said.

She then got on the bus and yelled at the two boys that Griffin said were the bullies.

“Specifically to the two boys I said you need to keep your hands to yourselves,” she said.

The driver ordered her off the bus. She and Griffin then walked to Lake Nokomis Community  School. Sydney said when she and Griffin got to school they were met by the school’s police liaison officer, the principal and a transportation supervisor.

Sydney said the supervisor pulled out a photograph of another African-American woman who he said he created a disturbance on a school bus last year.

“That is when the transportation guy apologized and said ‘I assumed you were the woman from last year,'” she said

Her son and the two bullies later had to apologize to each other. Sydney got a letter from the principal saying she is banned from school grounds and the bus stop for the rest of the school year.

“It’s mindboggling,” she said.

She has filed an appeal to the year-long ban with the Minneapolis School Board. Sydney said she does not regret her actions.

“There are too many stories of children getting bullied. I don’t want it to get to the point were he is scared to get on this bus and he can’t be successful,” she said.

Griffin has gotten back on the bus this week and has been going to school without incident. The school district released a statement on the matter Wednesday, saying they can’t comment on the incident because of data privacy laws.

“Because of data privacy laws, we are unable to share any particulars about this matter. For the safety of students and staff, we are committed to following the MPS policies regarding bus protocol, including only allowing MPS students to board school buses; it is not our protocol to allow parents or other adults to board school buses. Maintaining a safe and secure environment in the school district, including our school buses, is a top priority.

Minneapolis Public Schools encourages parents to contact their school immediately if there are bullying concerns. Our schools take allegations concerning bullying very seriously and have a protocol to address these types of situations,” the statement reads.

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  • B in MPLS

    Apparently parents don’t get to be part of the solution anymore. The schools have it covered. The bus driver who gets paid next to nothing to babysit 50 kids while driving totally has it covered. No problem there. No bullying deaths or anything to worry about. There hasn’t been a bullying related death in what, a day or two?

    She was totally within her right to yell at those kids. You hit my kid, whether you’re 10 or 100, I YELL AT YOU. Sorry, but there are only so many ways to get through to people. Yelling helps…

    • Gardoglee

      However, the school district policy must be written to cover not only the situation where the mother gets on the bus for a seemingly valid reason, but all the other situations in which a parent might get on a bus, including the one where the irate parent brings a weapon.

      What might be needed here is someone to assist the bus driver, who should be paying most of their attention to driving the bus safely. Pity that the school district probably doesn’t have the funds to hire and additional someone to ride on the bus and deal with student behavior Most likey they don’t even have funds to do training or background checks for volunteers. You never get more than you are willing to pay for.

      • Michael Bingham

        When are you going to stop thinking that money is the answer and that it is the school’s responsibility to parent these kids. This is a problem that is rooted in the home environment and should be dealt with there. If the parents cannot administer proper teachings and discipline at home, no amount of money or supervision will fix the problem.

        If the kids can’t act in a civilized manner kick their butts out and i guarantee the parents will resolve the issue.,

        • Icarus Barnabus

          Exactly right. One room school houses educated kids for a long time. There was no money. Money fixes nothing. The schools are mere adjuncts of the government and they interfere in private lives as much as they can get away with. They ought to ban the principal and the bus driver for a year. A good walloping for the bullies might not hurt either.

          • Julie Tippets

            Money fixes nothing? Really? Doesn’t money fix roads, broken bridges, flood-damaged towns, hurricane-ravaged coastlines? Doesn’t money support the military? If money was really not part of the equation of our reality while living, we wouldn’t have bills! We could get face-lifts and liposuction for free! Free cars and airplane tickets!

            • luckydog

              You missed that one completely!

              • LaQuan Demitrius Theodorius Jackson

                Julie is a teacher and a democrat.

                • Wun Hung Lowe

                  Cool name ya got there LaQuan!

                • Shamika Tawana De'Andrea

                  ROTFLMAO at your name LaQuan! Leemie axe you a question: did you vote for O-Zero and will you vote for him again in 2012?

                  In any event, good for this mother in defense of her son. I’d be in jail if it were my son after I beat the hell out of the bullies (and their useless parents).

                • Kyle Michel Sullivan

                  Good for her! She helps create jobs through education and intelligent thought, unlike those billionaires who pay little or no income tax, send jobs to countries everywhere else but the US and put their money in secret Swiss bank accounts.

            • T

              no, all those things are created through manpower.

              • Kyle Michel Sullivan

                Yeah, try using manpower to pay for the asphalt and concrete and machinery needed. I’m sure the private companies those are purchased from will be glad to accept it. Right.

            • Bill

              Hey “Jules”….

              Icarus was not stating that money is not NEEDED. He’s stating very intelligently that money is not the solution to all the problems in our educational system. And, if you were not such a whining liberal “female d-o-g”…you would aptly understand that. Please….get the heck out of my country. Seriously…people like you should have been spanked more as children!

            • jhr459

              Is 1942 your birth year? If so, I’m guessing you’ll be dead soon like all the other old bigots

              • kat40915

                Your a real jerk, you know that?

              • dconn

                Heh – you kooks are all the same. In MY world, we don’t tolerate bullies. If the bullying doesn’t stop, the next step is the parents. Directly. Deck daddy a time or two and the bullying WILL stop, regardless of a bunch of whining libkook school staff. You’ll wait a LONG time for caring parents to die off. A LONG time, libkook!

            • kat40915

              What he meant is that money doesnt fix lack of discipline or make kids be kind. did you really not get that?

            • kat40915

              What he meant is that no amount of money will make kids be kind to each other or fix discipline issues that stem from home. Did you really not get that? Might want to reread his post.

            • DaveyB

              Thats not money its currency. The government doesnt have any “money”. All those wonderful things you mentioned are paid for with debt-backed-currency. So all those shiney warm fuzzy you see in in plain sight are funded through future taxation and enslavement of your children. Those “fixes” create twice as many problems which are just a little to far ahead for you to see. So yes in a very myopic sense I guess you could call them “fixes” ;)

            • Larry Croft

              Julie, the commenter is correct within the context of the article.

          • sneezewhiz

            One room school houses went away because they were no good, they did not work, and they did not succeed.

            • Pattib

              Actually the one room school houses did succeed. The number of children increased and the need for more space. However, sociologically speaking, the school board was created to oversee more than one school so the education was more efficient. As with all organizations, they were founded on a good premise. Over time however, the school board looses sight of the reason they were organized for. As the schools build, the board becomes very inflated, especially with a good tax base. After a period of time, the focus becomes the Survival of the Organization; ie: the school board’s survival, NOT the orginal purpose for which it was formed. Now, the school boards look to funds for the board survival, not the education that they were formed for. One room school houses are still very good, there are a few out ther!

        • MorganGray

          Nah, I doubt it. The parents of the bullies don’t bloody care. Otherwise, they’d be paying more attention to their budding terrorists, and making sure the darling little thugs obeyed the laws of polite society.
          Nope, only one way to deal with bullies. Send them to the orthodontist.
          That’s how I dealt with it. Then again, that was nearly 40 years ago. Nowadays, the kid being bullied would get sent to reform school and the bullies’ parents would sue.

          • steve

            And you would be on the jury and award the bully $1 million

      • Magic

        Are you suggesting the taxpayer again be burdened with another official on a bus to police the brats that have never had any discipline at home or been held accountable for anything. Nothing will ever change with in our society until people are held accountable for theri actions. There must be teeth in or rules and punishment must again be unconfortable.

        • glenn pate

          How about one less administrator to read and implement a regulation, which allows no case by case, common sense decision making. Why have principles and vice-principles and vice-vice-principles when all you need is a technocrat to read the regulation and the pre-ordained punishment to the parents and the student. A $150,000 a year administrator replaced with 3 $50,000.00 per year technocrats.

          • Marc

            Spider, there aren’t many unions that would not allow the district to fire one administrator and hire three more union members.

            • kevin s.

              There aren’t many unions that would not allow that, true. Unfortunately, the ones that would happen to be education unions.

          • zbake13

            Administrators are not legally allowed to be part of a union. Teachers (and some other school staff including bus drivers in most states) are the only school personnel that are allowed to be members of a union.

          • Julie Tippets

            School administrators do not belong to the teachers’

            • LaQuan Demitrius Theodorius Jackson

              Julie is a wannabe administrator.

            • Susan Nunes

              In many parts of the country, administrators such as principals DO belong to a union.

      • KW

        If they were to go back to when kids would get 3 or 4 licks from a sturdy piece of wood then they would be less likely to want to create the situations that would cause them to experience that punishment. I know it stopped me from wanting to participate in such shenanigans back when I was in school. You know what? I never heard of anyone ever dying from that either. A lot of tears were shed but there was a lot learned by those visits to the principal’s offices or hall visits.

      • sick of criminals

        what needs to happen is that violent kids and criminals go to jail where they belong and we stop pandering to groups and gangs because of their economic status, background, gender, and/or race.

        • LEon

          HA HA HA HA HA!!! You’re funny, but disbanding the government isn’t a viable solution.

          • Frank Zentura

            Perhaps not but giving local communites more sovereignty certainly is. No one is vested in their own communities because they rely on government handouts!

      • troy

        Why should they have to hire someone? Why isn’t the principle, a teacher, or school staffer riding on the bus? Why should more money be spent when there are already people that can do it but choose not to because it is below them.

        • lukuj

          There is usually one principal per school. A school might have 8 or 9 busses. Teachers need to be in their rooms before school to prepare for the day and parent conferences. They need to be in their rooms at the end of their day to be available for parent conferences and other meetings and duties. If the teachers weren’t available for parent and student conferences, they would be criticized and chastized. It is the parents’ job to teach their kids how to behave. When they don’t, they and the schools need to stop harassing those who try to correct their behavior as long as they aren’t physically injuring the child. If more kids realized their parents weren’t going to take their sides even when they are completely in the wrong, conduct would improve greatly.

      • Jess

        In my school district, there is a camera at the front of every bus above the driver’s head. Install a camera in the front and the back to record the bus rides. When an incident is reported, district security can then review the footage for proof and appropriate responses. Tada.

      • Matt

        Have parents volunteer.

        • pammie

          yes!!!!! :)

        • Dave

          The parent would have to join the teachers union first.

          • lukuj

            And the parent would probably be threatened with lawfuits or sued if he/she dared to yeall at the kids or try to make them behave in any way.

        • Lisa

          A good friend of mine volunteered to go on a field trip with her middle school aged son a few years ago and they wouldn’t let her on the bus without a background check. She was a driver for Brinks at that time.

        • dienst

          Get real. The parents of a bully don’t volunteer. That would be too much like taking an active interest in their brat’s life.

        • Tom N.

          Parents volunteer? Why would anybody do that? Seriously, The first time a Volunteer Parent does anything to stop a bully incident or a fight, that parent will be the one in trouble…You know the drill, “Don’t ever touch my kid”..etc. The parent will then be brought up to the principles office with the resource officer and informed that a criminal complaint is being filed. Then the obvious lawsuit….And that’s if the Parent has the balls to do something to help a kid being beat on…If the Volunteer Parent was too intimidated to do anything, that parent will be confronted by the victims parents and demand to know why nothing was done to protect their kid. That parent will then be called to the principal’s office for answers. That parent would probably get sued…..
          No, get rid of the kids who cause problems…Period! BUT a lot of classroom behavior doesn’t get reported because the Administration will accuse the teacher of not being able to control the classroom. The real reason is that the Administration doesn’t want to deal with the parents who come in screaming how little Johnny is being treated unfair, he wouldn’t do such a thing, the teacher just hates him, etc….
          I mean if you want to volunteer, God Bless you. Just be aware what’s gonna happen..
          The Video camera is a good option. At least the parents can’t defend Johnny who is caught on film…

          • Newbern W Johnson

            Sure they can “The video was interpreted wrong.”

      • NavyVet

        The school district policy will not stop someone from bringing a weapon on the bus or stop an irate parent from getting on the bus. If someone is going to bring a weapon on board a bus…you think a piece of paper is going to stop someone? I actually drove school buses for awhile, right after leaving the military and the problem is school policy. Driver’s are not allowed to touch a student for any reason. Fight on the bus? They tell you to pull over, radio the school and they’ll call the police. So…you stand there…yelling at the kids to stop and if they ignore you? Your told to watch the kid get beaten and hope the police get there soon. Insanity. You have to trust the teachers and drivers to handle situations that require immediate action. We even had kids fall down the stairs and get hurt and we weren’t supposed to hug them to comfort them. They come to you crying and hug your leg and your told to not put a hand on them and just stand there…like a robot. Insanity. The fear of lawsuits and total BS lawsuits is paralyzing this nation. Major Tort Reform and Loser Pays are needed NOW!

        • William J. Lasseter

          That’s horrible. The minute bureaucracy replaces human judgment is the minute society falls into a tailspin.

        • Catherine

          I have been retired from the school system for 9 years. It was no longer a place I wanted to work. I had Health Office Duty and Cafeteria Duty.. Not being allowed to hug or confort a child was too much for me. This was after 22 years in an elementary school that I had loved. Sad…

      • Scott Battles

        Pity the parents of the bullies do not have the wherewithal to demand apologies from the little piles of human garbage. Teach the kid martial arts and let him do what a young man is supposed to, defend himself. I once kicked the school bully so hard while he was sleeping it broke the window. Needless to say he then left the little psycho alone.

      • Yon Yames

        Ah yes, because a school rule would stop an irate parent from getting on the bus with a weapon. Earth to Gardoglee….

      • Hal McCombs

        Oh sure. They need a “policy”. For when a parent brings a weapon on the bus. I guess the bus driver can just whip out a copy of the policy and the parent will put the gun down.

        Are all lefties born stupid? Or is it beaten into them?

      • HML

        I’m with Michael, money doesn’t fix everything, studies in the 80s about schools and money showed that some of the worst schools got the most money, and some of the better schools got far less money. A lot more involvement from the parents is what’s needed.

        • dffggs

          She got involved and she got here knuckles rapped by the State. She should have just went to the State Indoctrination Centers Nurse and had the two bullies put on Ridalyn. Or just ignore the problem like most parents do until lil Sovante gets his hands on a good semi-automatic handgun. Obviously thats what these types of ridiculaous policies are meant to encourage right? Funny how we seem to be more setup to handle problems like school shootings then adults dealing directly with problems concerning their children.

      • Iska Waran

        Minneapolis Public Schools spends $21,000 per year per K-12 student. “The school district doesn’t have the funds”? Are you insane? I’m not saying there need be a monitor on every bus, but Mpls public schools have more money than just about any school district in the country, yet in too many cases they turn out a lousy product for the money.

      • somewhereinus

        Assist the bus driver? How about paying a higher salary to bus drivers that are competent to fill the shoes of a bus driver and fire those that can’t handle it? Now there is a real solution!

      • roagie

        pity that no one teaches there brat children to behave on a bus or at school so mothers don’t feel like they need to step in an protect there children.pity that our GOVT. schools don’t have discipline in them anymore.. Pity the GOVT. schools are afraid of being sued out of there skins for doing the things that they used to do back in the day, when we never had these problem in our GOVT. school system.if the GOVT. school system didn’t waist large amounts of OUR money on BS , an top heavy admin. they would most likely have money to help the bus driver..we have put way to much responsibility on the school an allowed to many bullies to exist without puttin them out on there ass so the decent kids don’t have to worrier about them .. I’m on the Mom’s side .. a kid lays a had on my child repeatedly like that .. well she did what i would of don’t ..

      • Nate Womack

        Money isn’t the problem. The problem is the public school system’s continued advancement of an agenda that is exclusionary toward parental involvement in their children’s lives. The idea that somehow the school system is equipped to protect students better than a child’s own parents is ridiculous, but is part of the philosophy that individuals must rely on figures of institutional authority to solve their problems rather than any sort of self-determinism, or reliance on family.

        Culturally-speaking, this is a relatively new phenomenon. In decades past, you didn’t see children committing suicide because of school bullying. You either stood up to bullies or avoided them. It was only with new zero-tolerance rules and policies that protect the aggressors as much as the victims that those with these bullying tendencies felt empowered enough to act without fear of real consequences. I will teach my children to stand up to those who would victimize them and, if necessary, use physical force in self-defense. I will also teach them how to win in such confrontations if they arise.

        When my father was eight years old, he had a cat that he loved dearly. One day a bullying neighbor came to him and handed him a sack that contained the remains of his dead cat, who he had killed purposefully. My father cried all the way to his home hysterically. When my grandfather arrived, he literally had to slap sense into my father until my father was able to explain what had happened.

        My grandfather, at that point, walked down the street to that boys house. He was gone for a while and when he came back he told my father that the other boy would never bother him again. And the older boy wouldn’t so much as look at my father ever again.

        Those of you arguing in favor of increasing public involvement in these situations are sick, socially, culturally, spiritually. There isn’t justice anymore and it is because good people haven’t stood up to say ENOUGH IS ENOUGH.

    • tony

      who the hell gave the school power to ban parents from and from area’s outside a school. they think it is cute to parents homework to do, but protect your kids from a bully, the parent gets expelled from school, not the bully.

      • just me

        Unfortunately, the schools have a lot of power now. This is one reason why I home school.

        • parent

          Exactly! This is just another prime example of the government trying to control us. Similar situation happened to me with my child, and I didn’t think twice taking matters into my own hands, especially since NOTHING was being done about it…hence the reason we now home school. What kind of message is being sent to these kids when the only person trying to help is the one being punished?! I applaud this mother for stepping in and doing what every parent should do!!

      • Frank

        The school district doesn’t have the authority and they themselves are acting as bully’s. Time to put pressure to fire the transportation supervisor.

      • Dr. 9

        All it takes for schools to become the new Gestapo are weak, dumb parents. And today, they are the rule, not the exception.

    • A. Levy

      This is the result of a nation of formally free people allowing themselves to become govt. controlled, PC’ized sheep. When you allow the govt. to take control of your own children, that means you can’t control them, and shouldn’t have any. Parents who are so weak and stupid as not to see what the govt. is doing, should not be allowed to have kids.

      Weak parents and government indoctrination is the highest form of child abuse.

    • notyranny

      Nah, the government owns your kids so the parents really have no say. We cannot have parents interfere with our social indoctrination of these students to comply to the bullies that will be police thugs or congressmen when they grow up.

      • Maria

        You got that right!

    • d

      i can’t stand these school boards. They are going to force everyone to sue them. They are so stupid. Their policymaking is taking the schools straight to hell in a handbasket via the express lane.

    • Fred

      Yeah, but the bleeding hearts of public schools don’t want little punks feelings hurt and of course they won’t do anything until the good kid gets hurt. Then the schools steps in all shocked. Go Mom! your were right!

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      • andrew

        You don’t have to shout.

    • Enzo

      She will just have to sue the school. In this bizarro world called America, it is the only way to get things done because people have lost all common sense.

      • andrew

        I question that logic.

    • Jaime Staalenburg

      Why stop there? If some kid kept beating up my son I’d find his dad and beat him in front of his kid. I think that would take care of the problem rather quickly.

      • wootdude

        You’d probably get your @$$ whooped!

    • Sheri

      I would sue the school and take my child off the school bus. I would also strongly consider moving my child to homeschool or a private school. Our disabled child was being bullied and we decided to remove her permanently from the public schools and homeschool her. She is a lot happier and she is making better grades.

      • carlahoag

        I salute you for having the determination to do what’s best for your child. Our children are now grown, but some of my regrets are of the times when I didn’t fight hard enough for them. I’m not making that mistake with my grandchildren.

    • D in CS

      BIG PICTURE…. schools ARE parenting your children and you are not even allowed access to YOUR children. Imagine, parents in protest pulling their children from school, declaring themselves as homeschoolers and the school only gets paid for the minimal amount of bullies in attendance. That kind of protest would get attention and turn things around for the community. It’s about time we all banded together and actually speak on the language the school districts understand…… money. You want a government handout being paid per head in the class at second period? You better listen to your parents and not the government. Awww, who am I kidding? The apathy in the country is WHY bullies are running crazy and those in charge say they cannot be in 50 places at one time and parents won’t pull their children out to make a stand of protest.

    • LEM

      Yeah, the school systems have it covered – except for when they don’t. Which is 99.9% of the time. Eye roll.

    • PaulaPrimo

      I agree with you in some points. If something bad happen to my kids and I didn’t do anything to prevent it, I will definitely blame myself for it. But she could have also just talked to the bullies’ parents to resolve the issue.

    • sueinmi

      Hey mom…there’s a jujitsu professional in your area. It is self protection martial arts and it is very effective. Your child is one of sooo many that suffer at the hands of bullies. You will not worry about your son once he’s gained knowledge of how to disarm a bully and it’s not about violence.

    • Jeff Campbell

      I agree with you 100%. We keep getting told by Schools that it’s the Parents fault for not getting more involved with our Childrens welfare, yet when we try, we get punished.

    • Cece

      Yes, she had every right to protect her child from bodily harm. The school is not correct in this matter-it is a tax payer funded school she has a right to be there. She needs to sue period and in the suit demand compensation for her child’s trauma, her trauma .She should also demand in the suit payment for private school the cost of transporting said child and have the removable(Fired) of all parties from that school district that made wrong judgments in this matter.
      No I am not a lawyer but a parent who had dealt with this with 2 of my children back in the 80’s when schools ignored this very problem. I am sorry I did not sue- TODAYYOU HAVE TO!
      I can not believe they spend $ 24,000 per student and have no money to supply monitors. My public school in Pennsylvania only spends $9500 per student and I complain that is to much since 75% goes to pay and benefits!

    • Who Cares

      While I agree with you you miss the point of our new politically correct society. Only Government can solve any problem. This woman needs to go home, shut up, and pay more taxes to solve all the ill’s of our would.

    • Kingfish

      Just another show of union idiot’s misuse of power, she should have taken the S.O.B’s out, like the union suggested.

    • Pilot.Dave

      Amen. Too many lawyers for the school…

    • Jack

      Here in Kansas we have something called home schooling. Some of the best students, the ones who win full ride scholarships to our university, are home schooled. Message to parents: Home school your children because the NEA owns the Department of Education in D.C. and in every state and they are determined to take away your rights as a parent and to make our school systems and stupid as possible.

    • Parent

      “Apparently parents don’t get to be part of the solution anymore” – you are spot on. Liberals (who run schools) don’t believe we are smart enough to manage our own lives and want to control us all.

  • Amber Sheehan

    All I can say, is good for her! My kids have been getting bullied on the bus for the last 3 years. you call the school they say its the bus company’s responsibility, the bus co says nothing they can do. When the bullying started this year, I started making the calls again. Things have been ok for 3 days, but if they start again you can durn well believe I will be back at the bus stop making my presence known!

    • Citizen

      @Real. Yes, kids need to stand up for themselves, but watch the bullied kid who sticks up for himself with a fist to his tormentor’s nose, get hauled off to court and charged with assault on his tormentor. The schools have zero tolerance for fighting and call in the cops at the drop of a hat.

      • JMJ

        I am in shock i never agree with Citizen. But on this i totally agree. And i had the same issue with my child as Amber. My daughter was in 2nd grade and the bully was in the 6th and a bus patrol. No one would help. So i threatened the school with calling in all the news stations and filing a police report.

        • Michael Clark

          and what came of that situation, JMJ?

      • Beenthere

        Amen. And…..any and all others who try to intervene to help (even if it’s only reporting the TRUTH, ALSO get the same punishment. Zero tolerance is a complete joke.

    • Scott

      Honestly, the best thing you can do is put your kid in martial arts. No amount of presence by you can last the whole day when you’re not around. It will only take once for your kid to knock one of them silly and they’ll learn to pick on an easier target.

      • Beth Dennis

        You are absolutely right, Scott. I started my sons in martial arts when they were in elementary school because of a neighborhood bully. He actually told me that the cops wouldn’t do anything to him because he always got away with it, and my own kids would get in trouble for fighting. I wanted to get my shotgun right there, but I got my kids self-defense lessons, instead. My older son was never (successfully) bullied again, and my younger son is a black-belt champion in competitions.

      • tim

        Scott, you are 100% right. I am a wrestling coach and my boys wrestle. My 50 pound 7 year old has already stopped the 80 pound 10 year old bully in the neighborhood, no problem. Dumped him on his butt, held him down and made it really clear that he is going to take nothing from him. Has not messed with him ever again.

      • Ron G

        Absolutely. The bully is only emboldened by the actions of the school. Bullying is not to be taken lightly. This bully needs his world rocked either by the boy or by a bigger friend or yes, a parent. Most the time all the bully needs is a dose of his own medicine followed by a strong “leave me/him alone!”

    • Old Dominion Boy

      I am old school. When I was their age, our school had a simple system. Two of the oldest kids on the bus with the best grades were made ‘Monitors’. If both monitors reported you for an incident, you were off the bus for a week. If it happened again, off the bus for the year. That made the little troublemakers Mommy’s problem, but it takes gutsy school admins to enforce it and those are long dead. Gave the older kids incentive to make grades too. With good grades came authority. If someone your grade level on your bus beat your grades, your badge went to them.

  • Concerned and Had Enough

    Terrible that the school district just sends out a letter stating she cannot go to the corner or even go to the school itself. Was there a meeting with the principal of the school before this letter was even sent? Obviously she was concerned enough for her son, and the bus driver should have been strong enough to say I will make sure this issue is brought forward. Public School Staff — all staff — need to start addressing this bullying issue and respond immediately. I hope they communicate with this woman and walk through the issue again with her so that this never happens again to her son, and that this never happens to another parent. Suicides and School Shootings are serious consequences of school bullying. Immediate responses need to happen.

    It’s unfortunate a mother had to yell at the boys who were doing the bullying, but had a bus driver been concerned enough to say we’ll take care of it immediately, I feel she had no other choice. The action of the District to proceed in their decision reflects the aspect of no communication, no ability to resolve issues and take a stand to address bullying. I hope it changes.

    • Guy

      So what gives the SCHOOL the right to demand that she stay away from a PUBLIC STREET CORNER (aka the bus stop)?

      I would have told the school to “f” themselves & show up at the stop EVERY DAY to pick my kid up.

      • Tough toe nails

        Amen to that. She ought to show up with a Louisville Slugger on her shoulder. The public schools these days are whack. Their zero tolerance policy on dicipline for the little thug shiites is getting really tired. Maybe if people take matters into their own hands, they’ll start doing something about the problems.

        • AP

          Wow. You are like, SO tough. It’s a shame more kids didn’t grow up like you.

        • roneida

          Better watch you back and sleep lightly.

        • stop ur scaring me

          That’s one mean keyboard you’re wielding there! Why didn’t you publish your address se we can take you up on your offer? Hmmm?

        • Eggcellent

          I’m in your camp!! Mr. Bus Driver said he didn’t have time to “police” the kids on the bus, yet he had enough time to tattle to the School Administration. I rode the bus during second grade, but we were in mortal fear of the bus driver, knew what deportment was appropriate on the bus, and behaved ourselves. In High school I walked, but had to go through an area where a group of bullies lived. I began carrying a baseball bat; luckily I never had to use it, but the “threat” was enough to keep them off me. Of course now everything is so PC and Nanny-esque that I’d probably get in trouble for carrying something to defend myself.

        • sick of criminals

          it’s people like you who should be in jail. what a loser.

        • Man on the Silver Mountain

          Love to meet me, huh? Hmmm… I didn’t see your address posted here. What is it? Schmuck.

          • Japes Macfarland

            ” I didn’t see your address posted here. What is it? Schmuck.”

            So are you sticking up for the bully, or the Mother in saying this? If it’s the bullies, than you voted for Obama. If it’s the Mother, than it could go either way. One thing is for sure. The left does not want parents involved, and they want more power. A larger State is their solution for everything, including their own lust for power; which they get by capitalizing on compassion. To be frank, the left is wrong about literally everything, and they work for the devil but most don’t know. Lol, there, I said it. ;)

            • Andrew

              I think you meant virtually, not literally. I might note also that the left aren’t the only proponents of big government. There’s also the right. It makes sense, really. Plumbers want more plumbing work; accountants want more accounting work; politicians want more government.

              • Japes Macfarland

                Andrew wrote: ” Plumbers want more plumbing work; accountants want more accounting work; politicians want more government.”

                Yes, but the distinction between left and right is in the Left’s core values, or what defines them as ‘Left’. It is part of their MO that they *always* want to increase the size of government. Or, centralized power, emanating from a huge and to huger State, as the solution. This is in contradistinction from those of more traditional American values (not European) believe that the bigger the government gets, the smaller the citizen.

                It has to do with this. The idea of prioritizing individual liberty *over* our decent instinct for egalitarianism, is an anomaly in human history and experience. The default position of the human is to be on the Left. (Just like it is for men to be generally more sexually aggressive than woman, but to be ‘civilised’ means we learn to stifle the natural urges.)
                The abnormal faith in the average person, that it took for the Founders to come up with our vision, came largely from their faith in a God that loves each person so extra-ordinary. (Yes, in spite of all the Left’s excitement about the few, so called, Deists… even these were not the ‘Deists’ of today. They believed in ultimate justice and an afterlife and that God was involved, etc. So not even that’s true.)

                Anyway, no, I think I meant the word literally, as for describing the Left’s endeavours. I literally can’t think of a single example of real success, from a leftist idea (i.e. one that the right specifically disagrees with) Not a single one. In my opinion the Left (…as an ideology, and largely faith based, dogma, emotion dependant world view as much as most any religion.) has only increased misery, suffering, cruelty and death on earth.

        • jimbo0265

          what a joke, you are the bully that is discussed here. No you dont want to come to Texas and meet me that I promise, just how big of boy are you? You had better be the one to bring a bat and a sack lunch. people have to stick up for the people who do not feel they can stand up for themselves. In cases like this its two or three or more on one. You are a dolt.

      • Mainer

        Even the school is public property

      • Bernie Goetz

        F*****in A!

    • onceproudamerican

      Simply unconstitutional!!

  • Emie

    Bravo to this Mom! Maybe if the school district had an adult riding on the bus it would reduce the number of these incidents. I you don’t stand up to bullies you have given them permission to continue being a bully.

  • KM

    Shame on the school for banning this mother from school grounds or from the bus stop. Both are public property and especially as her son is at that school, she has every right to be there!

    Good for her in protecting her son!

    • Citizen

      @KM. Yes, the school system is part of the problem here, and not part of the solution. I hope the school board rescinds this stupid administrative ban on Tanya. With this kind of reaction from school administration, no one should doubt why parents and the public are nonsupportive of the education system. I’m not sure if the schools are more worried about lawsuits than they are worried about the kids, but that certainly appears to be the case.

      • Mary

        to citizen: I agree with everything you said. When did our school systems lose every bit of common sense? We want our kids to follow the rules, but when the schools have such unreasonable responses, how can we possibly support the schools’ decisions? Now, would you want an administration that acted so inappropriately to be in charge of your kids’ moral and sex education?

  • bjs

    Someone had to do something. any good parent would/should do the same thing. there should be 0 tolerence for bullies. Also people need to be more responsible on their damn jobs. The bus driver should be disciplined

  • rml

    Good for the mother! But shame on the school….. the boys who are doing the bullying should be banned, not the mother trying to help her son!!

    • red

      i agree- Why are the parents of the kids doing the bullying involved in this. It’s like they are sitting back and laughing at the this woman trying to protect her son instead of teaching their kids some morals to grow up and not become trouble makers

      • whoaaaaaaaa

        Do we know that baby boy wasn’t the cause of the issue in the first place? Mom jumped in mighty quick based on what ????? oh that’s right. Her son’s words. Ever been around a little lying kid before anyone?????? He had a bad day, told someonew to get F’ed and they retaliated. He’s the innocent victim them?
        just sayin’ there is a whole lot of screaming going on here and none of us know the facts is all. She may have been smarter and addressed it off the bus like an intelligent person would…emotions can get one killed

        • markH

          “emotions can get one killed” Yes, and so can indifference-that’s why we have terms like ‘innocent victim.’

        • VA Mother of 2

          I don’t think it really matters if the boy said anything to the bullies and his comments started the beating. WORDS are just that words, not physically touching another person. You can say stuff all day long – which again can be bullying – but you CANNOT put your hands on another person. EVER! I tell my kids that fighting is wrong and as an adult if you hit a person you can go to jail. Only animals can’t control themselves. This woman was right in defending her child. I would do the same thing. In fact, my child was being bullied at school when I found out who it was, I went to the child’s home and told them in front of their parent to leave my child alone. You don’t like her that is fine, but you don’t need to say mean things or harrass her. That girl hasn’t talked to my child since. Blame the school and the parents – Zero tolerance should be ZERO tolerance, not a slap on the wrist for these little thugs. No detention – they laugh at that. Suspension and then kick them out if they are repeat offenders. Parents need to do more parenting – teach your kid values and morals! If parents actually have to wake up and figure out what school is going to take their brat, they might actually start trying to fix their behavior.

    • Big Bear

      Not in liberal-land. It’s all about polishing turds and the lowest common denominator.

      These bullies might grow up to the pwecious cwiminals, providing lots of jobs for paper-shuffling liberals in the socialist services field.

      • wootdude

        And you would be the first one to cry to the school board because some “liberal socialist commie” yelled at your poor wittle cubbies. Get a grip and house train your pet kids.

  • rml

    …there needs to be some serious consequences for kids who are doing any kind of bullying…. maybe some juvenile detention or some mandatory counseling for kids caught bullying…

    • re-think-it-all

      And some serious consequences for the adults responsible for making sure it DOESN’T happen. Why doesn’t someone fire the bus driver? Can’t be 50 million places at once? That’s fine buddy, then you aren’t qualified to do this job. Start making bus drivers and teachers more accountable for this stuff, and things will change. Fear of losing one’s livelihood works as a wonderful motivator, take that fear away, and you get poor results.

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  • Elisabeth

    Ok, while I agree she did the wrong thing getting on the bus to speak with the children (those rules are in place for the safety of all the children on the bus) … this is ridiculous! She is a concerned mother, precisely what these schools keep screaming they don’t have enough of … let her participate in her child’s education! Absolutely the wrong call by the school admin.

  • clt

    Good for Mom!!! It is terrible how the school has treated her. I agree with Emie. There should be a parent riding on the school buses. I used to be a school bus driver and it is very hard to drive safely and be watching what is going on behind you constantly.

  • tbone

    Who does the school district think they are. They do not have any authority about the street corner where the buses stop. She can stand on any corner on a public street she chooees too in orde to ensure the safety of her son. The school district idiots are on the public dole and are not city policy makers, police, or the PARENT

  • so

    Schools DO tolerate bullying-teachers and those supervising are busy with lesson preparation, paperwork or just chitchatting. It is assumed that ‘kids will be kids” or something along the line of “They need to learn how to survive on their own”.

    Walking away as response to bullying is still taught despite mounting evidence it does little to discourage bullies and nothing to help a hurting child.
    I am not sure whether teacher overload is the problem or just general apathy. I only know it comes at a great cost. Unfortunately too, most school districts are good only at lip service. There are plenty of slogans and beautiful sounding catchphrases-but that’s it.

  • Ray

    Thank God my grand daughter is in the south suburbs and not in this wound-tight Minneapolis school district.
    This board must be comprised of past thugs themselves!

    • Whiney

      Wow Ray, how did you get your head out of the sand long enough to sit at your keyboard. Bullying is actually a bigger problem in the burbs. Direct violence is a bigger problem in the city schools.

  • WinonaB

    The bus drivers are there to transport your children, not to discipline your brats.

    • Amber Sheehan

      Thats very true, however, they are still bound to keep them safe. If they cant do this alone, there should be chaperons on the bus. If the driver cant do something at the time of the bullying, they should report it to the school upon arrival.

    • red

      Heck If I have to I would pull over and I would tell them that this bus is not moving til they f– shut up and sit down whether it is going to school or home.

  • Reality sucks

    Tanya Sydney, I’d take this one pro bono!

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  • Pavel

    The problem is she got on the bus. It is best to notify the school and make sure they follow through to correct the problem. If the situation is not resolved, follow up with a meeting of school officials.

    A good bus driver will do his best to resolve the situation on the bus. Sometimes even the best can’t resolve the situatioin so the school is the best to handle it. It is “dangerous” to have parents board the bus. Not all are as well-intentioned as this mother.

    It is good that she took some action for her son.

  • Johanna Pinckaers

    This mother is my hero! I was bullied through elementary, middle, and high school and now even in Community College. Bullying needs to end now.

    • Real Talk

      It’s a basic law of nature. The strong survive and the weak perish. Luckily for you, we live in a safe, coddling society.

      But in your case…..why do you think you’ve been bullied your whole life? Let me give you a hint: Its not the bullies that are the problem!! In general, people will treat you how you let them.

      So wise up and toughen up cowboy. Its life…not a day at the fair.

      • AP

        Real Dumb.

      • Danielle

        That is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. I too was bullied in grade school, and as a CHristian I had always been taught to “turn the other cheek.” My bully in SUnday School moved away, and when she returned 3 years later she tried it again. But, everyone ignored her. They respected me for turning the other cheek. My 5th grade bully kept following me home. I told my mom how she would spit at me etc. Finally, my mom had had enough. So she pulled up after school to the partk one (in her AMC pacer-real tough, I know). She asked who wanted to fight her daughter. no one answered. She then informed them that if they wanted to fight me, she would teach me and that since she grew up on the streets of New Jersey, I would’nt lose. The bully left me alone after that and her friends became mine :)

    • tbone

      If you are still being bullied now in your adult life at community college, maybe you should take an assertiveness training course and a class in self defense. You have been pushed around all of your life, its time to start pushing back at the low lifes that cause you problems. Good luck to you

      • Beth Dennis

        I was bullied my entire life, too, because I’m very small and look like an easy target. I had several stalkers in high school; one of them stood on my lawn and threatened to cut my heart out while my mother was listening and even threatened my friends. At the age of 20, little boys would throw things at me on the street. The stalking stopped when I got myself a big boyfriend, and little boys stopped bothering me when I had a baby. Something in me changed after that; I developed a mother-bear attitude and nobody messed with me again. I’m still amazed at the complete switch. It does help to get a great big boyfriend/husband who is a teddy bear; strangers only see that he’s big and won’t know that he’s just a gentle giant. Believe me, if adults are bothering you now, they won’t if they know you have him around.

        • Doug

          Those strangers may know more than you think; while he might be a teddy bear with you, I’d wager you woudn’t want to watch what would happen if he saw you threatened (more power to him) just like you would be with your kid(s)

        • Doug

          My wife thinks I’m a teddy bear and it never occurs to her that even though I would never desire to hurt anybody, if I saw her being threatened I would take whatever was handy and kill the person without a second thought.

      • Warming

        Right. I was bullied in school. My parents said to ignore it and it got worse. They said to laugh at the bully and it got worse. Finally, they gave me karate lessons and that ended it. I never had to use the karate.

  • Sue J

    I’m sure if her son was gay this would be another story. She is a Hero for doing what she did. Keep up the pressure, and Never Give Up!

    • tbone

      I wonder if the unusally high amount of homicides in mpls involving children getting killed lately, has anything to do with bullying taking place on school campus. After all, these kids have to leave the school building at the end of the day and still deal with those kids who are bullying them out in the community

  • Momma Bear

    I go straight to the home of the children that bully my kids and I make sure that the bully tells their parents what they did. I have done this more than once, and let me tell you the look on those kids faces when they open their front door is priceless. obviously its very important to be sure that the parents are home when you go, and bring a witness. I don’t bother the schools they are afraid of lawsuits and have enough to deal with anyway.

    • tbone

      children often mimic what they learn at home, so the bullies probably wont get much dicipline there. If they were getting dicipline at home in the first place, then they would already know how to act. The parent(s) are more than likely the kind of people who walk around through life thinkimg they are entitled to everything, simply because they exist

  • Ben Dover

    Bravo Mom

  • tbone

    The fact that the school has a police liason officer on site, tells me that the school personnel cant even handle the issues that take place inside the school, much less anything that happens miles away on a city street corner. School officials must subscribe to the philosophy that the government can take care of your child better than you can. Typical BS of the government thinking they should control every aspect of your life. Send your kid to private school if you can afford it, the curriculum is centered around learning not muslim tolerance and gay rights

  • curly_racks

    She is re-married jerk and her new husband was sitting next to her during hte interview. I am proud of her for being an involved parent!

  • Sheila

    Its about time!! The schools want what they want. To take on this or that when it is easy for them. I have kids that are just starting the school system and I will be right there to stand up for them at any cost. This issue has gotten so bad. Parents needed to step up weather your child is being bullied or your child is doing the bulling. Protect your babies and be active in raising them ALWAYS.

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